2009 San Antonio Riverwalk Weddings * Military Wedding Information

Wow! It is spring and the wedding bells ring! Theunless the weather is inclement.
Marriage Island located in the San Antonio RiverFlowers for the Chapel are provided by the
on the Riverwalk is located just down theChapel Altar Guild. These flowers cannot be
Riverwalk from the Westin Riverwalk Hotel. Theremoved from the Chapel after the wedding.
Island has been used for Religious Services forFlowers for the members of the wedding party
over 300 years. The first Catholic Mass held inare the responsibility of those getting married.
San Antonio was held on the Island. The island hasRice cannot be thrown inside or outside the
also been used by most other denominations atChapel. Be sure to inform your guests of this
one time. This includes Baptists, Presbyterians,restriction.
Lutherans, & Methodist over the past 250 yearsThere are rooms for last-minute preparations at
as a meeting place to hear the gospel. Thethe Chapel, but at the beginning of the ceremony
Marriage Island is one of the most beautifuleverything should be removed from these rooms.
wedding spots in the State of Texas. SeveralA mininum contribution should be made to the
photos are shown on the website of pastProtestant or Catholic Chapel. This is to be paid
Riverwalk Weddings.when you submit your application: it helps to
Weddings may be officiated at any San Antoniodefray the cost of marriage books, candles,
location. Outdoor and backyard wedding make forflowers, and music.
a real cozy setting. We have served people fromUnited States Air Force Academy: Colorado
all areas of San Antonio, New Braunfels, Gruene,Springs, Colorado. The Academy has two
and Universal City. Churches available for rent ifdifferent chapels and a different booklet for each.
you require a Church Wedding.The Protestant Chapel can be used only by
Military Weddings for members of all Bracnches ofgraduates of any military academy and
the United States Military. We have officiatedactive-duty military personnel assigned to the U.S.
weddings at the Fort Sam Houston Chapel, andAir Force Academy, and their dependents. This is
the Lackland Air Force Base Chapel. Father Louisan Academy regulation. Chaplains that are
Bernhardt is a Member of the United Statesassigned to the Academy normally preside over
Chaplain's Service, and serves as Statethe wedding, but in special circumstances other
Commander. Father Louis also serves as aclergy may officiate. Premarital counseling is
Member of the Board of Govenors for the Texasmandatory for all marriages, beginning at least
Association of Wedding Officiates for 2009.thirty days before the ceremony.
There are many options for your RiverwalkRehearsals should be scheduled with the chaplain.
Wedding. You may charter a Riverboat for theFlowers are to be provided by the wedding party,
Wedding Meal. Live Musicians available to play yourand should be delivered to the Chapel. White
favorite songs. You may have a friend or familyrunners are not allowed because of the highly
member read a poem! You may write your ownpolished floor.
vows that you speak to each other during theThe Chapel provides candles and kneeling cushions
celebration.for the bride and groom. Sabers and baldrics
Children from previous marriages may be included(holders for the sabers) are available at the
in the ceremony. The Minister would present eachChapel, too. However, they cannot be removed.
child a ring or other memento that the couplePictures may be taken with a flash only during the
furnishes. This officially makes the child a part ofprocessional and following the benediction. Pictures
the celebration and a member of the new family.of the religious portion of your wedding may be
Rules for Military Weddings at Militarty Chapels &taken from the balcony only. Flashbulbs are not
West Point.allowed at that time.  Flashbulbs may be used
Every wedding requires special planning, but aduring the arch of sabers. There will be time after
military wedding calls for some specific traditionsthe wedding for pictures.
that may be unfamiliar to a civilian bride whoseIn the interest of time, a reception line cannot be
mother or mother-in-law did not have to considerformed at the end of your wedding. Weddings at
such a ceremony.the Chapel must also begin and end on schedule.
Marilyn Sharp, wife of Colonel Dan Sharp (retired),Nothing--rice, confetti, or flower  petals--can be
gives this advice on how to smooth the way to athrown either inside or outside the Chapel (mainly
perfect military wedding. "The most importantfor safely reasons).
thing to do is to plan as soon as you beconeMilitary chaplains do not receive fees for their
engaged, and don't feel silly checking two or threeservices. Donations can be given, but there is no
times with the caterer or florist." Mrs. Sharp saidcharge for the use of the Chapel.
that it was not uncommon to have the wrongThe Catholic ceremony is relatively the same.
flowers and wedding cake end up at the wrongHowever, there are a few differences.
wedding. Part of the problem with simple services,Catholics need a copy of their record of baptism
like hotels, caterers, and florists at the academies,from the church where it was performed. This
is that there are so few of them. West Point, forneeds to be issued six months prior to the
example, has only one hotel in the nearby town.ceremony. A questionnaire must be filled out in
Many people come each year to West Point forthe presence of a priest. If the marriage is
graduation and weddings in June, so hotelinterfaith, special counseling on the responsibilities
reservations must be made as early as February.of being Catholic is required before the ceremony.
Mrs. Sharp's husband graduated from West PointFor all couples marrying in the Catholic Church,
in 1951 and retired from the service as theattendance at premarital sessions is required. You
deputy commandant at West Point. Being themust also obtain permission from your pastor to
wife of the deputy commandant, she helped thebe married in any church other than your own
cadets plan their weddings and recalls havingparish. Sabers are not permitted inside the
attended eight military weddings in one day! AnyCatholic Church.
enlisted man or officer can have a militaryUnited States Military Academy: West point, New
wedding in full-dress uniform. Like anything havingYork. West Point does not have a bride's
to do with the military, there are certain guidelineshandbook, but Chaplain Louis Bernhardt offers
that pertain to all military weddings, regardless ofsome tips for brides who want to be married at
wether they are held at one of the academyWest Point.
chapels or in a civilian church.According to Chaplain Louis Bernhardt, the bride
A military wedding is a formal affair. Your fiancemust bring to West Point everything that the
and his military friends wear their dress uniformsparty will need. If you are marrying a graduating
and white gloves. Boutonnieres cannot be worn oncadet, he will draw lots several months before the
a military uniform. If there are any civilian ushers,event to determine what time your wedding will
they should wear cut-aways, strollers, black ortake place during June week. Weddings begin one
dark-colored suites. Your father, if he is not in thehour after graduation and run continuously
military, should do the same.throughout the week. There are three chapels at
Invitations to a military wedding read almost thethe Academy and one Jewish Synagogue.
same as those for a civilian wedding. However,Chaplain Louis Bernhardt said that the hardest
you should include your fiance's rank and branch.thing about having your wedding during June week
For instance, instead of John Smith, you wouldis finding a place to stay. There is one hotel in
put, Lieutenant John Smith, U.S. Army.Highland Falls; and it is booked early in February
The saber arch is one of the things that makesbecause of all the wedding parties and all of the
the military wedding so special. During theparents and relatives who plan to attend
recessional, the bridge and groom walk under angraduation. You should makereservations at the
arch made by the ushers or designatedhotel for your entire wedding party as soon as
saberbearers. This is also the most photographedyou know the date. Follow this immediately with a
part of a military wedding. A good rule of thumbcall to the officer's club about the reception. It is
is to have four to six saberbearers in yourvery important that you include a "reception
wedding party: they can serve as ushers or canfollowing" card with an R.S.V.P. on it so that you
be separated from the ushers. It looks nice toknow the number of guests to expect.
have the same number of bridesmaids asOrder the flowers from the florist early and
saberbearers, but this is up to you.recheck to make sure that there is no mix-up as
Commanding officers should always be seatedto the time and place.  Photographs depend on
according to their ranks. Your ushers will probably,the church--you will have to ask the chaplain of
if they are in the service, know how to do this.the chapel you have chosen. Rehearsals are set
Other officers may sit anywhere. The chaplains atby appointment. First, you should check on any
each of the military academies have provided aspecial rules that your church might have on the
summary of their own specific rules.drawing of sabers.
United States Naval Academy: Annapolis, Maryland.Planning a military wedding is basically no different
The following people can be married at the U.S.from planning any other type of wedding, until the
Naval Academy Chapel: Naval Academyconclusion. The recessional proceeds like this: The
graduates, active or retired, and their children;bride and groom leave the church first, followed
military personnel assigned to Annapolis, andtheirby the bridesmaids and seaberbears. When the
children; Academy faculty, active or retired, andbride and groom reach the back of the church,
their children; and military personnel retired withthey step aside to let the wedding party and
pay, and their children who regularly attend thecongregation leave. After everyone is out of the
Academy Chapel.church, the saberbears form two lines facing each
Weddings are scheduled through the seniorother to form an arch of sabers. According to
chaplain's office, which can be found in theofficers who have had military weddings, the
wedding handbook. Weddings can be held Mondaysaber arch should be practiced before the
through Saturday from noon to 4:00 P.M. exceptwedding. Make sure that officers participating in
for the week of commissioning. After thethe saber arch leave enough room between them
application has been received, you will be issued aso the bride and groom can go under side by side.
time for the rehearsal and wedding.The commands for the arch are as follows:
During commissioning week, the Chapel isSabers are carried in the "carry draw" position. At
reserved for the graduating midshipmen only. Thethe command of "draw sabers," the arch is
scheduling for their weddings is usually differentformed. Each bearer raises his right arm with
from weddings at other times. For information onsaber in hand rotating the arm until the blade is on
commissioning week weddings, you should contacttop. If the saberbears bend their wrists, they
the office of the senior chaplain.should have a true arch. At the command, "return
Only Naval Academy chaplains will peformsabers," the saberberars return their sabers to
weddings in the Naval Academy Chapel, and thethe "carry draw" position. Your saberbears should
Academy chaplains advice premarital counselingknow what the "carry draw" position is: if the are
before a couple are married in the Chapel. If youunsure, it is partially in the baldric and partially out.
live far away from the Academy, the chaplainswillOnly the bride and groom may walk under the
suggest a counselor.saber arch.
The arch of swords, as it is called in the Navy,One special tradition at a military wedding
takes place in the Chapel steps. Since the Chapelreception is that the bride and groom cut the first
does not supply swords, your party must furnishpiece of cake with the groom's saber. The groom
them.places his hand on the hilt of the saber (the
Music for the wedding is the responsibility of thehandle) and the bride guides the blade.
director of musical activities at the NavalA military wedding can be as modern or as
Academy. Only appropriate sacred music can betraditional as you want to make it. Concluding with
used. Soloists and guest instrumentalists are notthe arch of sabers adds an especially memorable
encouraged at the Chapel.touch for you and your officer husband.
Pictures can be taken in the Bride's Room, in the 
sacristy, and outside the Chapel before the 
ceremony. A flash may be used during the 
processional and the recessional. Pictures may be 
taken in the new nave during the ceremony,For the last 15 years Father Louis has been know
including the balconies, without flash. No picturesas the "Riverwalk Pastor" and he continues to this
may be taken in the Chapel after the ceremonydate!