The Pros and Cons of Boarding Schools

Boarding schools have been extensively debated -an analysis the child's needs and the
some consider them great boosters of a child's allcircumstances of the family. Also, it is generally
round development, and some as instruments ofadvisable not to send a very young child to
neglect of children's emotional needs.boarding school.
Don't Make An Arbitrary Decision On ThisWhile there is 'no right age', the child should
Today, adult lives have become extremely hecticdefinitely be above 10 years of age - an age at
and the joint family concept has faded. This is thewhich most kids have attained sufficient maturity
age of dual-income nuclear families, and a child'sto understand concepts like doing their own work,
life and development often takes place in suchstudying on their own - and, importantly - why
rather unsuitable circumstances. Many city childrenthey are living separately. It is very important for
return to day care centres instead of their homethem to understand this, and not to see their
after school, after a grueling commute to andtime there as a form of punishment. Additionally,
from their schools.a child this old is normally not as emotionally
Often, this burden is further exacerbated bydependant on his/her parents as a younger child.
tuition classes, even though an inhumanChoosing A Boarding School For Your Child
homework load leaves them with little time andThe choice of the residential school is very
energy for extra-curricular activities. The result isimportant. Parents should check the available
bored, stressed out children...and for a child tofacilities, the quality of education and the level of
experience stress is simply unfair.interaction between the students and teachers.
Seen in such a light, the option of a boardingAfter all, teachers play a far more significant role
school has much to speak for it. After all, theyin such schools than in conventional schools. It is
are not just about studies - they also give a childbest to check on this with other parents who
time and exposure to a lot of other things likehave children in the same school.
sports and art. Also, children in such schools areThey also need to ascertain the proximity of the
more likely to have stronger bonds with theirschool to where they live - after all, they will have
friends, since they spend a lot of time together.to drop in to meet their child, and to take him or
When parents' jobs require them to relocate toher home on weekends or during vacations. It is
different places, boarding schools make goodclear that parents must factor in their own
sense, too. They give their children a fixed set ofcommitment to stay in touch with their child while
teachers, friends and familiar surroundings. Theydeciding on a school.
also eliminate disruptions in their education - oneInvolving children in the decision-making process
of the banes of relocation. This helps a child feelcan help them adjust to the new environment
more secure, and to experience a greater level ofmore easily. The whole situation calls for great
stability in terms of overall educational and socialsensitivity from parents, since the child should in
environment.no way feel unwanted or abandoned.
Boarding schools are also a solution for those livingTaking the child along to evaluate the school - and
in smaller towns and cities that do not haveasking for honest feedback - helps the child feel
suitable schools. In such cases, they mean andloved, respected and cared for. Even after the
end to compromise in education standards - asdecision is made, parents need to assure the child
well as lengthy commutes to far-away schools.that they are always there - and that he or she
Additionally, they help children from provincialcan tell them anytime afterwards, without fear, if
areas adapt quickly to a larger social spectrum,the school is somehow unsuitable.
and to become more self-reliant and independent.Is Your Child Ready For A Boarding School?
The Flip Side Of Boarding SchoolsMore importantly, parents must check the
Of course, there are drawbacks - not the least ofemotional needs of their child. Kids who have a
them is homesickness. Moreover, children inpoor academic record are generally looked down
residential schools have fewer day-to-dayon by their peers in most schools - and in a
interactions with their family, and significantly lessboarding school, they are essentially without
time to spend with their parents during theirconstant, parent-based moral support. This can
formative years. As a result, many parents wholead to inferiority complexes - and sometimes
placed their kids in boarding schools complain thatrebellious behavior or other behavioral problems.
they could not contribute to their child'sIf there is pre-existing conflict in the family or the
development fully and effectively.parents are separated, the child needs an extra
The close interactions students have with eachdose of parental love and support - not a
other in residential schools can also expose themboarding school, which would in all likelihood only
to the differences in their socio-economicaggravate the child's distress. Only a child in a
backgrounds, sometimes causing resentment andhealthy state of mind should be sent to a
insecurity. There have been cases where suchboarding school.
children react by falling in with destructive group.If firmly convinced that this is the right choice for
Also, children who do not get along well with theiryour child, visit a few and acquaint yourselves
friends or are affected by teachers who playmore about boarding school life by checking out
favourites feel deprived of the love and affectionthe campus and talking to current students about
that they would normally receive as comfort intheir experiences. You, like many other satisfied
such situations.parents and children, may just agree with others
Evidently, the decision of sending one's child to awho feel that boarding school is an education 'in
residential school should not be based on a 'good'and of itself.
or 'bad' conception of such schools, but rather on